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Take Back Your Day

5 Steps to Do More of What Matters

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In This Post – How to Manage Time, To Get More of What Matters Most Done

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  • Can you relate to these scenarios related to how to manage time?
  • What does it mean to take back your day?
  • Why bother?
  • 5 Steps to take back your day
  • How to make it the new norm
  • COMPLIMENTARY 5-Day Take Back Your Day Playbook and Accountability Support (see download at the bottom of the post)
  • Take Action/Next Steps for You

Do These Scenarios Sound Familiar?

Can you relate to these scenarios related to how to manage time?

You set up a plan for the day and then your amazing plan is derailed by:

  • Unscheduled meetings
  • More meetings
  • Kid’s illness
  • Last minute school assignment or homework that the kid forgot to mention
  • Unexpected business trip
  • Boss needing some kind of last minute critical deliverable
  • Husband needing some kind of important paperwork that is due immediately
  • More meetings

Are you

  • Constantly making lists, creating plans, and trying to find ways to get everything done, yet you never seem to accomplish everything that needs to happen for your work, your family, and much less for yourself
  • Feeling like it’s impossible to check off even the bare minimum, let alone the strategic
  • Feeling so conflicted, thinking about work when you’re with your family and wishing you could be  enjoying your family when you’re at work
  • Feeling like your brain is completely full and might just explode….

Or, maybe you just stopped planning your day altogether since it never seems to happen as you plan it anyway?

What Does Take Back Your Day Mean?

“Take back your day” is my way of saying, make your strongest attempt to plan out your day and your week to align with your priorities. It’s a philosophy for how to manage time.

And, also to do everything you can to eliminate and limit the fire-drills, interruptions, urgent requests, and constant barrage of other people trying to derail your time with their own priorities.

It is so common, especially for moms, to let other people hijack our day with their own agendas, priorities, lack of planning, and just plain disregard.

Now, of course, legitimate stuff comes up that is unavoidable. 

And, we can’t completely reprogram our boss or our husband to be more organized and to plan ahead.

But, we can switch the ratio so that chaos isn’t the norm. We can put in our own processes, systems, and expectations so that we are only dealing with fire-drills 20% of the time instead of 80% of the time.

Given All This Typical Chaos, Why Bother Trying To Take Back Your Day?

Chaos can be the exception, not the rule. You can shift your schedule so that you

  • Get more done in less time
  • Increase your productivity
  • Stop feeling like you have no time
  • Reduce your overwhelm
  • Fill more of your day with what matters to you, and to your family
  • Increase your control over your priorities and
  • Stop sabotaging yourself

Using the 5 steps below for how to manage time, you can accomplish all of this!

1. Understand Your As-Is State

The first step in taking back your day is to understand what we can in the software world, “the as-is” state.

What are you doing now?

You can answer this question by tracking your time (I mean how you actually spend it), through a time audit. I recommend completing this for 3-7 days. 

You can use an old-school piece of paper (request the download at the bottom of this post for a template) or a time-tracking app like Harvest.

After you have all your time accounted for (or most of it), categorize it. For example, you might have the following for a 72 hour period:

  • 18 hours = sleeping (25%)
  • 15 hours = meetings (20%)
  • 10 hours = driving (14%)
  • 6 hours = cooking (8%)
  • 5 hours = errands  (7%)
  • 4.5 hours = emails (6%)
  • 3.5 hours = social media/internet (5%)
  • 3 hours = waiting at kid’s sporting events (not multi-tasking) (4%)
  • 2.5 hours = creating work deliverables (3%)
  • 1.5 hours = helping kids with homework (2%)
  • 1.25 hours = exercising (this is an imaginary example, can you tell?) (2%)
  • 1 hour = managing team (1%)
  • .25 hours = talking to husband (1%)
  • .25 hours = showering, bathroom (1%)
  • .25 hours = hanging with kids, uninterrupted (1%)
Pro Tip: the benefit of using a 7-day time audit is to have a mix of weekday and weekend time. If you can stick to a longer audit, that will give you a more complete picture.

2. Define To-Be State

Next, figure out how you WANT TO SPEND YOUR TIME.

Somehow, I am guessing it’s not 20% in meetings and < 2% family time.

What are the categories you want to spend time on, and how would you allocate it percentage-wise?

Write this out on a sheet or use the complimentary Playbook I included at the bottom of this post.

3. Identify All The Changes/Adjustments/Shifts You Need to Make 

Next, figure out what tasks and activities from the “as-is” list you can 

  • Keep
  • Simplify
  • Delete
  • Delegate
  • Defer

List out all the tasks and activities you did during the audit. You can also include other common tasks and activities that you commonly do but might not have occurred during the audit period.

Then, look at each one and write out if you want to keep it or not.

  • If you don’t want to keep it, mark it as ‘delete’.  Write some notes about how you stop immediately or will phase it out.
  • If you do want to keep it, then look at the task/activity and brainstorm
    • Ways to simplify what you’re doing now
    • Ideas for delegating some of it
    • Possibilities for pushing it out until a future time
    • Ways to optimize what you’re doing like ideas for making more use of your time in the car and waiting at sports activities

Make sure you address each task/activity you listed in your audit.

Then, list out all the activities that you SHOULD have been doing but didn’t.

4. Create Your Plan

Summarize all of the actions that you identified in the last step.

List out everything you identified to simplify, delete, delegate, defer and add.

List them all out. 

Put dates on each one as to when you commit to yourself to implement them.

5. Execute The Plan

Finally, follow the schedule you set in the “create your plan’ step.

I know that sounds simple. 

But, how often do you make a plan and then not follow it, when you really could have if you wanted to? 

Maybe you weren’t in the mood, let circumstances take over, just felt like checking out, etc….  I know I’ve been there tons of times.

There are legitimate disruptions to our day. But, it’s also important when we’re thinking about how to take back our day and how to manage time, that we’re honest with ourselves about what’s a real/necessary/unavoidable disruption and what’s just procrastination/avoiding.

Make This Your New Norm

Now that you have a plan in place, this is where the rubber hits the road. It will take some intentionality and focus to put these new strategies and habits in place.

It might also require some difficult conversations with the people who are used to the way you’ve been doing things.

In order to shift from your old, auto-pilot way to the new priorities and approaches you’ve designed, you will need a few tools.

Here’s what I recommend, as a starting point for change:

  • Be consistent with your scheduling process, including incorporating all the changes you identified above.
  • Stick to a consistent journaling process to get clear before you start your day
  • Take my complimentary 5 step ‘Take Back Your Day Challenge“, which includes a playbook and 7 accountability emails. I give you the detailed playbook that covers all of these tips in this blog and more, plus I send you a series of emails that walk you through the steps and make sure you get results.


We discussed these concepts in this week’s post:

  • Can you relate to these scenarios for how to take back your day, how to manage time?
  • What does it mean to take back your day?
  • Why bother?
  • 5 Steps to take back your day
  • How to make it the new norm

Next Steps Take Action

  1. Request the Playbook and accountability series in the box below
  2. Click here to join the conversation over at The Corporate Moms Club on Facebook
  3. Click here to apply for your (no cost) Strategy Session with me

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Did You Know?

I’m a success coach for corporate moms.

If you’re reading this, my bet is that you’re an ambitious mom who wants all she can out of life, for herself and for her family.

But, like so many other moms, you might be feeling

  • Exhausted,
  • Overwhelmed,
  • Spread too thin, 
  • That you’ll never get back on track to the high achiever you used to be.
  • You’re in survival mode.
  • You might be feeling like you’re failing at everything as a result.

I can relate. I used to be all of these things (and more). But, then I found a coach who helped me get exactly what I wanted 

  • Achievement
  • Belief in myself and my new identity (one that incorporates but isn’t defined by motherhood)
  • Purpose
  • Direction
  • Clarity
  • Results

I help other ambitious moms do the same thing.

I work with other ambitious moms like you to create and execute the mindset, strategies and routines that are required get out of survival mode and achieve your goals, both personally and professionally.

Think of it as a re-set for ambitious moms, like you, who want to maximize what you do, who you are, and all you impact, to make the most out of your life. Do you want to:

  • Regain control of your current career path
  • Create better balance (don’t believe the naysayers, it is possible)
  • Migrate to an alternative career path such as part-time or
  • Build your own consulting business

The first step is a complimentary Strategy Session where we talk about your goals, your obstacles and create a mini action plan for you. 

Click this link to APPLY FOR your free Strategy Session. 

This is time focused on you and your goals, and how to get to the next level. 

Related Links

5 Steps to Accomplish More of What Matters in Less Time

Get More Done in Less Time with Time Batching

Ultimate Goals Planner and Achievement Framework

The Corporate Moms Club on Facebook

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